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his has been a very controversial topic in my own home. My husband and I just celebrated our sixth wedding anniversary and I have been planting the seed that when our 10th anniversary rolls around, I want a new ring.
We got engaged 8 years ago and while I do like my ring, I am ready for something different and more in line with who I am today. Although my husband did pick out my ring, even his tastes have evolved. He went from a fun loving beach bum to an ambitious guy who is a great husband and father. He traded in wild motorcycle riding days for road trips in our minivan.
He is of the mind set that a wedding ring, should not be viewed as costume jewelry and that it has sentimental history attached and that it is nice to look at the ring and see how far we have come and how far we can go.
Blah Blah Blah. My feeling is that a ring is just jewelry and not a true testament of our marriage, so there is nothing wrong with getting a new one. I think that upgrading your ring, is a nice way to celebrate your anniversary.
I have 4 more years to state my case and defend it, I will let you guys know in 2012 what the verdict is.
What do you think? Is it OK to upgrade your wedding ring?
Reader Comments (Page 7 of 7)
121. I think it is OK to upgrade. The settings don't last forever and there comes a time when they can't be repaired. If life has been good to you and you can afford a bigger stone, I don't see anything wrong with it. The ring doesn't matter the marriage does. Most husbands would be proud to have their wives have a nicer ring. There can be just as many good memories of giving her a nicer ring as there was of giving her the original one.
Posted at 9:39PM on Nov 28th 2008 by Carol
122. My husband/s mother picked out my ring. When we were dating I stopped with him and looked in a jewelry store window and said I would love to have a simple ring just like that. It was a small emerald cut and plain band.
She said they couldn't find one and so I accepted it. Then she came to me and said "do you want this plain band or this band with the five diamonds. I of course picked the five diamonds. Always resented the fact that she picked it out.
So later in life when I was working I bought that little emerald cut diamond with a little plain band. I wore it for some time. It didn't really make me happy as my husband didn't pick it out.
Now that I am 80 I wear the ring he gave me. I had to reset the diamonds and the main one was cracked. I had another men's ring made with that diamond. He wouldn't wear it so I gave it to my son.
Funny, lately I have thought of upgrading it, but, it's too late now
Posted at 10:49PM on Nov 28th 2008 by dumblonde
123. Having been married for 41 years, the subject of enlarging/enhancing my engagement ring has come up from time to time by my husband. It has never been especially important to me although I admit to being impressed by bling. I treasure the ring my sailor fiance bought for me on his quartermaster pay. I'm a college professor now, he is long retired from a variety of careers. We could certainly afford something new, but the sentiment wouldn't be the same.
Posted at 12:59AM on Nov 29th 2008 by Cheherzad
124. When my husband bought my ring in 1995... I believe this is a three-quarter caret... he told me at that time that I could "upgrade" sometime in the future... I told him then and there that I wasn't interested in that... it wouldn't be the same to me as the one we picked out together on that day... and I still feel the same way... I LOVE this ring and to look at it is to feel the day I did that day... since our marriage, my husband has been very generous with the jewelry... but after having viewed "Blood Diamond", I have asked him not to buy me ANY more diamonds... Lord knows no "rock" is worth a life... and I feel just ignorant for not having known the truth about diamond mining sooner in my life (I am 50 now and in my second, and last, marriage)... Happy Holidays to all!! ;)
Posted at 2:12AM on Nov 29th 2008 by Storm
125. To each his or her own. I wouldn't dream of upgrading my ring with a replacement. Those memories can't be replaced. That rings meaning can't be replaced.
Back in the day, almost 9 years ago, when my to be husband wanted to propose to me, he had no money to buy me a ring. So he sold the only thing he had of value - His old rust bucket, yet beloved Chevy Camaro. It might have been an old car still in need of restoration, but he cherished it. And he sold it, because he cherished me more.
Sure - my engagement ring might have only cost $500, but to me it's priceless. And no matter what he makes now, replacing the ring is furthest from my mind. In fact, my diamond fell out and is lost forever. But rather then buy a new ring, we are going to replace that 1/3 Carat diamond with a bigger one. Set in the same band, with the same channel set diamonds.
I love my ring, I love the memories that are linked to it. I love the night he got down on his knees, and showed me that ring with so much prideand asked me to marry him. And more then anything, I love the man who sacrificed his dream car, just to buy it for me.
To want to upgrade your ring is offensive.
Posted at 3:36AM on Nov 29th 2008 by Holly Dubree
126. Fourty-one years ago, my husband picked a ring that matched what he felt in his heart for me. About 8 years ago, I had to have it reset due to wear and tear. I picked the closest setting to the original that I could find. When we were married, I picked a wedding band that matched what I felt about him. about 20 years later, the ring had to be cut off him due to an accident. We found one almost identical to replace it. We both have the gold from our original rings.
When he had major surgery recently, the hospital didn't want him wearing ANY jewelry. I took the ring and kept it close to me until post op, when I put it back on his finger as I had the original on our wedding day.
Our rings are symbols of a love the is real and deep and never ending. You can't upgrade love, so why upgrade the rings, unless out of greed or vanity?
Posted at 7:11AM on Dec 13th 2008 by Stillinloveafterall these years
127. My husband and I picked out my diamond ring together. It's of modest size but a square quadrillion cut that was unique at the time and I still get compliments about. I loved it then and I love it now. I would never consider upgrading it to something bigger because to me it is symbolic of our commitment to each other and not just another piece of jewelry. That's my personal feeling about it. For our 20th anniversary we bought (together again) a ruby and emerald custom ring from a favorite jeweler for my right hand. It's a gorgeous ring and one of a kind unique but one of the considerations I had was would it overshadow the diamond on my left hand. It doesn't. The two look nice together. I can't imagine ever upgrading my diamond. But one thing my mom did when my father died was get her diamond reset as a pendant. I might consider doing something like that if something happened to my husband. My mom's pendant is now a family heirloom and it's gorgeous.
Posted at 1:44PM on Dec 13th 2008 by Carolyn Todd
128. No, engagement rings are a symbol of a promise. I believe you should keep the same ring and not trade up. Adding a ring guard, or an additional band is another matter. I"ve been married 23 years and I love my ring. For our 10th anniversary, I was given a diamond and ruby cluster guard.
And, of course, we women do have a right hand and always welcome rings for the other fingers!
Posted at 2:55PM on Dec 13th 2008 by Lisa Naquin